You might have seen this post from our RethinkBPD site (currently being redirected to this site), but it is worth republishing here. Diane & Jim Hall are family educators for NAMI and NEA-BPD. Being one of the most loving, generous and hard-working advocates for BPD I’ve ever encountered, Diane & Jim have been a tremendous gift to me. In this post they share a little bit about their journey towards BPD awareness, learning and living with their daughter’s diagnosis. Thank you Diane & Jim!
Since Borderline Personality Disorder was first listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual as a legitimate diagnosis in 1980, the concept of the negative, troubled family environment of the person with the diagnosis has slowly been losing its horrifying stigma. Families were viewed by early medical school educators as causative of the disorder and vilified by professionals. Clients were often advised to separate from their families and concerned families were excluded from treatment of their loved one.
Recent evidence, however, has shown that the supportive, involved family of a person with BPD has a measurable effect on the recovery of the individual. Imagine that – the family can help! We can be influential in our loved one’s recovery – and care for ourselves as well!
Five Major Things We’ve Learned Since our Daughter’s Diagnosis in 2001
- The behaviors are reflective of the illness. We recognize that the negative behaviors are an outgrowth of core aspects of the disorder. Borderline Personality Disorder is real. How did we learn this? Through family psycho-education courses and conferences sponsored by NAMI and NEA-BPD.
- Early, thorough, and correct diagnosis and appropriate, proven treatment are paramount to a path of recovery. How did we discover this? We reviewed resources from NAMI and NEA-BPD; did and still do extensive reading and networking; attend conferences and support groups; consult with helpful professionals; and evaluate all available information. Another “gold-standard” website we admire and use frequently is from Dr. Robert O. Friedel’s.
- We love our daughter and cherish all the aspects of her life. We always keep faith that she loves us too. She is an individual with BPD. We address her as a person, not as an illness.
- We investigated all avenues of health insurance including federal and state funding to insure financial support for the best treatment programs available for her needs. We discussed the top three choices with our daughter. Detailed “fact-finding missions” can lead to educated choices for care.
- Our lives focus on Education, Skills, and Support. Life with BPD is admittedly different. Still, it can be rewarding. Acceptance and advocacy heal.
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